(describing her break up with ex-boyfriend liam hemsworth)
porn is a fantasy, an illusion of that which is desirable in the flesh. here me, it truly is a captivating picture and it powerfully paints a perception of a particular desire. the aim and hope for those that are trapped in its grip is that it can and will be a reality. the only problem is this perception that is painted will never attain to reality. very similar to the concept of the bad guy being victorious. it will never be a popular notion to praise the bad guy over the good guy; that will never be popular. this is because there is something sacred about good guys vs bad guys. the fantasy which is depicted in pornography is the fractured illusion and the fallen path that is hoped to lead towards a door of connection and intimacy. this is a dangerous ground to walk.
when a man/woman engage their heart/mind inside this fantastical illusion they undermine the form and reality of what the encounter is truly meant to be. the effects are not limited to non-christians alone, believers too share in the distorted download of intimacy with a partner. since porn is fantasy it will never be able to transfer into reality, no matter how many elements you bring into the bedroom for "fun." it will never be normal, it will always be fantastical.
when we indoctrinate our minds with enough fantasy, we soon will not be able to distinguish between fantasy and reality. therefore, like a drug, we desire a high, a fix, and no previous hit can gratify; so the dosage has to be intensified. our minds and body do not find the relief from the same amount of dosage. this is one way you can see how fantasy has taken over reality...you need a higher dosage to satisfy the urge/craving.
we do great harm to true intimacy by placing our partner in a role they were not made to act or participate in. will ferrill would make a terrible james bond, no? that is the what we do when we fill our minds with pornography. you then are unable to make a clear decision on what reality (intimacy) really is. who can really play batman...clooney, kilmer, bale, or keaton? which one really is the caped crusader. sadly, as we witness across the scope of humanity, there WILL be a replacement. deeper and deeper we go our partner will be replaced by fantasy and then, likely, physically replaced in our fanatical reality.
do not rob reality by feeding fantasy. my wife would not fail to meet my expectations if i wouldn't place fantastical expectations on her to begin with. no matter how prevalent the porn industry becomes or how normal it appears, it will NEVER be reality and therefore always fail to meet my deepest need of intimacy.
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